FOR THE WOMAN
- There is emotional tension of leaving the parental home and moving to a completely new environment.
- There is fear of pain and bleeding at the first intercourse.
- There is fear of pregnancy and childbirth.
- There is apprehension about her in-laws.
- There are clashes between the in-laws on dowry issues, gifts, etc.
- There is anxiety about poor self image due to size of breast, skin color, or physical defects.
- Social attitudes precipitate inhibition.
- Many people believe that sex is dirty,
- That only disreputable women enjoy sex
- Woman’s knowledge of sex means she is pre-experience
- That it is a man’s right to enjoy sex and that the woman should submit to his demands.
FOR THE MAN
- There is anxiety about sex performance.
- There is poor self-image due to size of penis.
FIVE “T”S FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE
- Trust
- Time
- Togetherness
- Talk
- Touch
PRELIMINARY IMPERATIVES PRIOR TO SEX
- Place
- Dress
- Personal Hygiene and Bath
- Use of Lubricants
- Lights
- Porno Movies
- Touch
- Taste and Sensuality
- Seductive Sounds
Tips to Male
- Â Remain tension free.
- Â Intercourse should always be done in an airy, neat, clean , fully ventilated room, free from any encroachment and disturbance.
- Â Ensure personal hygiene. Use deodorants, sents to ward off foul smelling body odours.
-  Before sex , have a bath or at least, sponge your whole body, particularly your ears, nose, arms pits, inner thighs, prepuce and glans penis.
- Â Give equal opportunity to your partner to have her own time.
- Â Never plunge your at once into intercourse.
-  Persuade your partner. Appreciate and endear each and every organ of her body, even if you don’t have fancy to some of her organs.
- Â Aggression , rough-shod treatment, demeaning, slighting or insulting will have a rebound reaction, resulting an imposed coitus.
- Excite her gently, carefully , slowly , tenderly. If she resists and forbids you not to touch any one or more of her sex organs
- Â Try to avoid sex during advance stage of pregnancy, during meanstruation or when she is having leucorrhoea.
- Â Fondle, caress, cuddle, kiss, pamper each and every erogenous zone- but very slowly.
- Â Give equal chance to your partner to indulge in sex act.
- Â If you are about to reach the climax, you should let your partner know a bit earlier so that she could help you to delay orgasm , by adopting squeeze the tempo method.
- Â After you have reached your climaxed orgasm , you should never leave her in between .
FOR WOMAN
- Before you meet your husband , make sure that.
- Â You have taken a fresh bath with some pleasing soap. Your private parts and arm-pits should not give our any foul and nauseating smell.
-  Your hair should be styled in a such a way which should catch our husband’s fancy. Some ladies use some fragrant hair oil and adorn their hair.
- Â Never Burden your body with heavy clothes, Dress up in see-saw dress, where your beauty and body organs are amply exposed.
-  Often change the colour of your dress –sometimes black, at times red, white or pink.
- Avoid using bras and underpanties. But keep in mind how your husband would like you to dress up if at all.
- Â Exchange some notes and pay compliments for his finger and manly body
-  Men do not want to waste time in above said interludes, so don’t over play in eulogizing your husband who is restless to enjoy every bit of your body.
- Â Do your utmost to build up his ego.
SEX WITHDRAWAL OR DEVIATION ?
- Lack of interest in the physical form of the spouse due to impotence, frigidity, family and professional constraints and compulsions.
- More interest in children, less in husband.
- More care for job requirements.
- Extramarital Relationships.
- Disagreement with the spouse on ways, methods and techniques in the performance of sex.
- Homosexuality; lesbianism, masturbation, preference for call girl and prostitute.
- Taboos and inhibitions. Joint family syndrome and social outlook.
- Incest, child-abuse or preference for a younger partner.
- Diseases like T.B, Diabetes, HIV, STD and AIDS, Cancer.
- Psychosexual problems.
- Sex arousal only with a person who can measure up to the imagined figure of the spouse.
- Indulgence, though frequent, in oral sex or through mechanical gadgets.
- Time crunch or else lack of mutual understanding as to when sex could be possible.
What a woman wants ? complaints by woman.
- Like a greedy and impatient person, why a man
- makes so much haste during the intercourse ?
- He leaves me half way , turns his head and goes to sleep.
- He uses me like a sleeping pill.
- He uses me like a pitcher to hold his semen.
- Man is like a fast train and women is like a slow  train. Two such trains if started together , will never reach the destination at the same time.
- Why do people have sex ?
- Biological instinct for survival of human race .
- To satisfy the sexual desire.
- For achieving parenthood.
- Promotion of intimacy, love and sharing between
- Â Â Â husband and wife.
- Some women do it merely to satisfy their husband.
- Some men do it for the release of tension.
- Commercial sex worker (Prostitutes)do it for earning
- Â Â Â their livelihood.